Character contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude, and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful. – Anonymous
How many times have you waited for something to change so that you could finally start feeling beautiful? If you are like most women, the answer is “all the time.”
When I lose this extra weight, then I will be attractive. If I can just get my abs a little more toned, then I can wear that bikini I love. I feel so much better after I put on my make-up in the morning. I looked much sexier before I had these wrinkles. My hair looks drab and lifeless until I get it colored.
Unfortunately, we think these stories, these lies, that we have been taught are true. We believe that we somehow need to change who we are, how we look, and what we do in order to finally be sexy, attractive, and drop-dead gorgeous.
This is a lie — an erroneous, ubiquitous, and often painful lie. The truth of the matter is that you are inherently, unconditionally, and absolutely beautiful and lovable right now, without changing a single thing.
Fortunately, very fortunately, you can expose these lies and choose to no longer live under their spell.
Ready to get started?
Here are 6 simple and sure-fire ways to help you feel beautiful today:
1. Become Aware of What You Are Thinking
Simply become aware of the stories you are telling yourself so that you are no longer reacting on auto-pilot. Through awareness alone, you can begin to transmute your reality and transform lies into truth. Actively acknowledge that there is no inherent truth in the belief that you need to change something about yourself in order to be attractive. Consider that you can start feeling beautiful immediately, in this moment, without changing a single thing.
2. Set an Intention to See Beauty
Setting an intention is simple: intend to create a different reality for yourself.
Here are some examples:
I intend to experience my inherent beauty. Or: I intend to see my beauty and perfection at all times. Or: I intend to know I am inherently beautiful, lovable, and worthwhile.
Do you ever see your reflection in the mirror and grimace at your wrinkles, vowing to purchase the latest anti-wrinkle cream? Set an intention to find beauty in your reflection.
Or when you undress, do you ever suck in your stomach, berating yourself for not yet losing those 5 extra pounds?Ã‚Â Set an intention to appreciate the body that you have right now.
Do you ever go shopping for clothes and wish you were a size (or more) smaller?
Set an intention to unconditionally accept your body.
Hopefully you get the idea; set an intention to see yourself through the eyes of beauty.
3. Take a “Meditation Moment”
Meditation is the mental equivalent of brushing your teeth. This means that it is an essential and indispensable daily activity designed to help rest and rejuvenate your body, cleanse your psyche, awaken your spirit, and help you live a life that you love.
Nourish yourself with instant meditation moments throughout the day.Ã‚Â Are you waiting at the bus stop on your way to work? Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, allowing yourself to connect within.
Are you making dinner for the family? Take 30 seconds and focus on the sounds, smells, and sensations in your environment, letting them nourish your senses.
Are you in the shower, getting ready to start your day?
Turn your attention to the feeling of warm water cascading against you, gently caressing your body, and allow yourself to relax.
These meditation moments can happen anywhere, anytime — 30 to 60 seconds of closing your eyes and connecting within can make all the difference in the world.
4. Your Body is Your Best Friend
Your human body is your truest ally. Befriend it and it will serve you tirelessly. Treat it as you would a dear friend:Ã‚Â Feed your body with healthy food, taking the time to give it proper nourishment.
Remember to exercise, and make it enjoyable. If the gym makes you cringe, opt for yoga, Pilates, dance, or good old walking. Anything to get your body moving will do wonders.
Relaxation is key. In our harried and hurried world, it is essential that you remember to relax and rejuvenate.
Instead of critiquing your body for not being enough of this and for being too much of that, offer it gratitude and appreciation for its unwavering support and devotion.
5. Create Meaningful Moments
Every day is filled with countless tasks and errands: going to work, talking with friends, picking up the kids, supporting your significant other, washing dishes, going to the gym, visiting the supermarket, shopping — on and one it goes. Remember that you can imbue each moment with meaning. It can be as simple as smiling at everyone you meet, reacting with compassion and love instead of anger, or making sure to tell your friends and loved ones how much you care about them.
6. You’re Smoking Hot, Inside Out
Remember, you were born beautiful. Believing that you are unattractive is a learned habit. You can unlearn it and discover the Joy, Peace, and Love that are your natural state and birthright!
So that is it — 6 Simple Steps. 6 simple steps to start feeling beautiful, right now, in this moment. You don’t have to go anywhere or do anything to experience the Beauty that you already are. In fact, there is nothing you can do, say, or buy that will make you any more perfect, any more beautiful, or any more desirable than you are in this very moment. Simply know this, and you will revel in your true beauty.
Sarah Maria, author of Love Your Body, Love Your Life: 5 Steps to End Negative Body Obsession and Start Living Happily and Confidently.