Growing up, I was always told I was pretty, that I have pretty eyes, that I have a pretty smile. I must say that all those compliments did feel good. It gave me confidence , I felt those words and I believed them. But the problem with that is, at a young age , I really didn’t know what true beauty was. I thought beauty was just a pretty face and nothing more.
Now that I’m older I know so much more. The beauty on your inside only enhances the beauty on your outside. That picture you see above is me. The beautiful, confident me. And I say that confidently. But it’s funny, even with self professed confidence, how we at times focus or wish for things that are not us. When I younger, I wished I was taller, was more outgoing, more like my lil sis who is vibrant and always the life of the party. But it’s ok, I can accept that I will be no taller than 5 feet tall, as outgoing as most or a size 6 because frankly, I’m loving the skin I’m in.
Most people I know struggle with trying to lose weight. My issue is the opposite. All my life, the heaviest I’ve ever been was 130 lbs. Now I’m much smaller, smaller than what I would like to be but I accept that I am the size I am and will embrace my size 3. For what I see when I look in the mirror is only part of the beauty that I am. I can also accept that I am only 5 feet tall. It has never stopped me from being a go-getter and going after my dreams. It did not stop me for marrying a 6 foot 2 man (although I can appreciate a pair of 6 inch heel occasionally). Nor did it stop me giving birth and carrying the 2 most important people in my life…my boys.
In short, I accept me. I accept my beauty both inside and out. I am a wonderful mother, a good wife, loving, kind and caring. I’m a giver, love hearing of others successes. To me that is Beauty. The beautiful part of me. My mother has always told me that I was beautiful person both inside and out. Dad did too. I appreciated those words and they are still with me today! Thanks mom and dad. I will continue on loving me and loving me hard!
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