Is your Marriage Solid?

I’d like to think mine is.  For the past 10 years, I’ve considered myself a real lucky woman being married to my husband.  We have this thing that just makes us click.  We by no means do we have a “perfect marriage” but we are in a good place and it feels good.

Has it always been this way?  No.  We have had our rough times but anything worth saving is worth working on. Most of the problems, if you ask me were pretty petty, nothing major that would require marriage counseling or anything like that.  We just had to come up with a better understanding of one another and that included better communication. 

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When I think about some of the marriage problems  my friends have to do endure, I consider myself fortunate.  Some marriages have real issues and real problems to deal with.  Me blowing up about him not replacing the toilet tissue roll or leaving less than a sip of O.J. in the fridge somehow seems petty.

Over the years, I’ve learn a couple of things about myself and eventually had to get over. Doing so has made out bond much stronger.

  1. I learned that it’s not all about me, all the time.  You give and you take, it’s called Compromise.
  2. “Sex”- Sometimes you have to give in to it, LOL, and it’s not all that bad. In fact, it can be a beautiful thing.
  3. “Communication”.  In order for this to work you have to communicate. Without it, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
  4. It’ OK to lean on your spouse.   It’s good to know you have a shoulder to lean on.
  5. “Be Honest”.  Let your spouse know when something is NOT okay.
  6. “Trust”.  No elaboration here.  Without it you have nothing. This is something I really had to work on.  But I’m there and it’s a great place.

I am in no way a marriage counselor or therapist but these are some things that worked for me.  So now, I ask of you again.  Is your marriage solid?  Share with us some things that have worked or is working for you in keeping your marriage strong.


  1. Lisa says:

    mine is not without issues but we’ve come along way and based pretty much solely on our commitment to the vows we took.

  2. Janessa says:

    Having lived with my ex for almost 11 years, I’m so happy now that I left and found a man with whom I could have all of the aspects of a solid relationship and happiness.

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